Finding purpose
When Aaron Fleming stands at the front of the room, speaking about his experience of life to a room of 50 people, he oozes the confidence you’d expect from a New Zealand sporting ambassador. Aaron’s an athlete, professional speaker, author, model, presenter and does a lot of work with young people through the Hamilton City Council. Looking strong, fit and athletic, you would never believe he was once bedridden in hospital, struggling for the will to live and diagnosed with severe depression.
At age 16, when Aaron was on the verge of a promising future in gymnastics, his right lung suffered a series of collapses. After numerous operations he was told he would never be capable of physically over-exerting himself again. He subsequently became addicted to painkillers and things became so tough he was even contemplating opting out of life.
Having always been a goal-driven person, Aaron got a real fright when he realised he was prepared to throw everything away. Right then he decided to turn his life around. “I flushed the drugs down the toilet and put up with the pain cold turkey,” he says.
His recuperation was long and painful but eventually Aaron was able to live relatively pain free. He came across a documentary about Tracey Richardson, a New Zealand mother of four who had been dealing with issues of weight, depression and lung disease. Her goal was to do an Ironman to fundraise for children with cystic fibrosis. After some further research, Aaron saw there was an opportunity to help and got in touch with her. Aaron’s surgeons told him he wouldn’t be able to do it but he set himself a goal to complete the 2006 Ironman to help Tracey raise more funds.
Aaron was weak. He had no muscles and wasn’t carrying a lot of weight. He began training for this giant feat and kept getting injured. But he was determined to prove his surgeons wrong and achieve his goal. Slowly Aaron began improving. “The good thing about an Ironman is it’s a pace race,” he says. “I didn’t have to put my lungs under too much pressure.” After 12 months of dedicated training, Aaron was ready and determined to complete an Ironman.
Aaron had control over his training and progress all year but when the day came, there was one thing he had no control over – the weather. There was a huge storm. The event organisers cancelled the swim, reduced the 180 kilometre bike ride to 90 kilometres and the 42 kilometre run down to 21 kilometres. Aaron felt his dream had been dragged away from him. He completed the modified Ironman but he felt like a fraud.
Suddenly Aaron’s one-year goal became a two-year goal. He went back the next year to complete the Ironman race properly. “Ironman day is my favourite day of the year,” he says. “It’s the only sport in the world where Joe Bloggs starts at the same time as the professionals. It’s an incredible feeling.” Aaron completed the race in non-stop 15 hours, 46 minutes and 44 seconds. He raised $23,000 for cystic fibrosis and created more awareness for the cause. He also proved his surgeons wrong. He realised that he could achieve these goals if he was sensible – and he felt so much better for it.
Because of his fundraising efforts, Aaron was offered an opportunity to represent New Zealand in the United States Ironman at Lake Placid, New York 20 weeks later. This was his chance to wear the silver fern. So six weeks after the New Zealand Ironman Aaron began training again – and was hit by a car.
Suffering moderate injuries he thought he’d have to say goodbye to his trip. But despite his condition, Aaron knew it was too good an opportunity to pass up. He hadn’t trained but he decided to wing it. As the only competing Kiwi, Aaron joined 2000 other athletes in New York. He believed he could do it and knew he had overwhelming support back home. After a long and gruelling 16 hour, 47 minute and 58 second race, combined with two flat bike tyres, terrible stomach pain and a strong desire to just give up, Aaron thought about his promise to the children with cystic fibrosis back in New Zealand and made himself complete the course. At the finish line he was met by an ambulance, given a drip and driven straight to hospital to be treated for severe dehydration.
Returning to New Zealand, Aaron was named a New Zealand community hero. He was selected as the New Zealand Ambassador to carry the Olympic Torch in Canberra for the 2008 Beijing Olympics. “It was like holding the whole world in your hand,” says Aaron.
Aaron really believes in encouraging kids to believe in themselves. He spent the next 12 months writing a book about his experiences to help get young people inspired. He’s since heard from a number of people, both young and old, about how his story has affected and made a positive difference to their lives. He’s spoken to a lot of school groups and also writes a column for the Hamilton Press about goal setting, motivation and dealing with depression.
Never one to rest on his laurels, Aaron hasn’t stopped there. He recently completed the 2011 New Zealand Ironman raising $27,500 for Cystic Fibrosis New Zealand. What’s next in store for Aaron? With his drive, determination and positive attitude anything is possible – so watch this space!