The mornings are getting that little bit crisper and the days a bit shorter. Our summer was not the best and now the seasons are changing. Our feelings and moods can be effected by these changes. Whilst this is an American article (fall and months that are spring in NZ) it is worth a read. How do you make the most of the changing seasons?
Great post around the things to give up and by doing so you could be happier. Of course easy to say but harder to do. It might be trying to do one or two of them (just one thing) ‘til you get to all :)
I asked a question a few weeks back if mutli-tasking was a reality. Do you really get more done if you try to do lots of things at once.
This HBR blog supports my thinking, thats why i am putting it up! It is about being present and giving one thing our focused attention. I struggle to do this and have to hide my smart phone so i do not check emails during meetings. Whilst my body may be in the room my mind is thinking about the response to the next issue. It has become so hard to be in the now - every thing beeps at me to tell me the next thing coming that I am in a constant state of 15 minutes advance prep. Lets all do one thing at a time for a week and see how much more we get done.
Great list from www.actionforhappiness.org around the things that contribute to happiness - or things that make us feel good. Feeling good is both about external and internal actions and knowing what you like. We can all choose to do things that make us feel good. Go on give it a go.
On Sunday I took part in the 40th Round the Bays in Auckland. It was a much bigger event that i had imagined with seventy thousand plus people. You may have spotted me, I was number 75270.
I did the walk to support a cause. I still haven’t connected the words fun and run in my mind yet so it was great to have another purpose. The cause was to promote a social giving website - www.socialangels.co.nz.
This site promotes the idea that by supportiong others not only is it beneficial for those people it also supports our own happiness. The idea that we are often happier when helping or supporting others is a growing movement. Many people find their own way to do this and Social Angels is only one option.
There were many other groups , companies and charities doing Round the Bays it felt like a sea of colour along the road. You could imagine the whole of New Zealand on the move with a purpose, even if it was just to get across the finish line. Just think of all the energy that was created during those few hours on a Sunday monring and how that could be used!
A unique programme for stepping teenage boys into leadership, self-confidence, and living an inspired life
Pathways to Manhood was developed over 10 years ago by Rex McCann, Essentially Men founder, in collaboration with an experienced team of men. Because Rex and the team have a strong grasp of teaching and contemporary issues facing men, the Pathways programme is ideal for stepping 13-15 year old teenage boys into the realms of leadership, self-confidence among men, and living life as an inspired man.
Pathways provides a vehicle for teenage boys to forge an authentic and strong self-identity in the company of a group of positive male guides and role models. Having his identity affirmed and developed by trusted men in a significant rite of passage event will give him the insight and skills to safely and confidently negotiate the risks of teenage life - peer pressure, loneliness, drugs, cars, alcohol, pregnancy and violence - and emerge as a leader in his own right.
This is a great article on the value friendship plays in our lives and the slight differences of friends. Friends and relationships have huge positive effects on our lives and as the saying goes everyone needs a friend.
Great article on the need to look out for wellbeing in the work place and that in fact leaders need to do this for tyhemselves as well. If you work long hours and only talk to people at work, or about work then something may be amiss. How do you spot wellbeing challenges in your workplace?
“It is recognised that men are less likely to access health services, have a higher incidence of cancers and other chronic diseases, and present later than women. To help address this, Cancer Society’s Men’s Health programme, CanWork, has launched 3 new personal video stories. Go to www.getthetools.org.nz
A few weeks ago HisBiz was given a copy of a book by Jeremy Thomas - I make a lousy someone else. Jeremy sent us the book as we have been talking around men’s issues and how we get some key messages out about men sharing stories and having permission to talk about our expereinces, often without it feeling too theraputic.
Basically it just is and it is ok to be what we are. Jeremy wrote the book as part of his bucket list, something many of us may well talk about, but he has done it! For more info around the book check out the link below. We will give a fulll HisBiz review once it has been completely read.
A great article around the happiness perspective. Includes a ted.com video which is well work the watch. The basic premise is does success make us happy or by being happy first does this lead to more success. It is around the question of what really is success and who’s success are we aiming for, ours or a image of success described by others? Some of the most happy people in the world may been seen to have the least material things. Let us know your thoughts.
“”Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see it squandered. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy s**t we don’t need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.””— Tyler Durden, Fight Club
“No matter what goes on in our relationship, it’s important not to feel hopeless or that we are at the mercy of someone else. No matter how perfect we aim to be, people struggle, and when our partners have a hard time, we shouldn’t always take it personally. We can learn to be solid and secure in ourselves, maintaining our personal power and building our emotional resilience. We can do this by knowing ourselves and learning not to react to our loved ones from a childish or primal place. - Lisa Firestone”—http://www.psychalive.org/2012/02/5-strategies-for-dealing-with-your-partners-fear-of-intimacy/ (via psychalive)
An in-depth training programme designed specifically for men who work professionally with men & boys, featuring Essentially Men founder Rex McCann. This weekend workshop provides an invaluable opportunity to learn from and experience first-hand the unique and powerful way Rex McCann has developed to work experientially with men. With over 20 years of facilitating men’s growth and personal exploration, Rex has forged a highly effective way of engaging men, inviting them to step into deep processes to experience acceptance, community and “being real”.
It also presents you the chance to take time in the company of peers, free from competition and responsibilities, to do developmental work on yourself in a skilfully held container. With your own experience of this programme you can refine your skills of engaging men to reflect, connect with others and step into their world “being more real”. Past participants report leaving the workshop more able to work powerfully and effectively with others, especially those men whose lives they influence, be they clients or co-workers.
Relevant for counsellors, social workers, teachers, mentors, leaders, and men with corporate or professional leadership responsibilities.
Venue: Auckland Central; non-residential
Essentially Men #84 Friday June 29th 7.00pm – 11.00pm Saturday June 30th 9.30am – 10.30pm Sunday July 1st 9.30am – 9.30pm Monday July 2nd 7.00pm – 10pm
Cost Organisations —NZ $660 Self Funding: sliding scaleNZ$660 — NZ$375 We recognise men have differing financial circumstances — if it is necessary you may pay on the scale according to your means
Deposit $50 Full price $660…$375 Sliding Scale $660 is the fee if you are employed and financially sound. Slide down the scale to a fee that matches your means. Payment plans and some subsidised places available.
Most people will agree that the weather can effect your mood and how you feel. New Zealands weather and potentially around the world has been pretty dramatic. This isn’t a blog around global warming however. Its about how you feel. I am sure there is some real science around this topic and there is much around seasonal affective disorder (SAD). This is about how it makes your workplace feel.
Is the weather effecting the mood of you or your workplace? Have you noticed that people seem less refreshed after the summer due to the lack of sun and time outside? Are people stuggling to maintain energy levels? Have you noticed more comments about the weather?
Some tips from Action for Happiness on how to create a happy workplace.
The leaders and line managers in an organisation have the biggest influence on whether or not it’s a happy place to work. But there are lots of simple, day-to-day things that all employees can do to make a difference
Most businesses in New Zealand will, at some stage, have staff who experience some kind of mental health problem.
Employers often want to help, but may not know what to do.
This information is designed to help you, as a manager, respond effectively.
With the right support, people with mental health issues can, and do, perform well in the workplace. They can continue to be highly effective employees and a long-term asset for your business.
If an employee is experiencing mental health issues that are impacting on their work, it’s best to be as supportive as possible. That will help them recover more quickly and that’s better for everyone.
We explain below why a supportive approach is recommended – not only for your employees but also for your business.
There’s also a three-step process Recognise, Relate and Respond to help you successfully navigate your way, when you are managing mental health issues at work.
Make it better before it gets worse...or...Don't let a trip become a fall...
The current global economic environment is a symptom of our current species dis-ease. In abundant times humans are often more generous and easy-going. In tough times the challenge is to stay that way and thankfully New Zealand culture seems to largely reflect this. Tough times can bring people together or foster an ‘everyone for themselves’ attitude that separates us. To build personal, group and business resilience and to stay resilient in tough times the following 5 strategies will help:
Get clear about what you (your team or organisation) stand for. Rather than considering what you want to do or be or have, consider the way you want to feel about your relationship with yourself, with others, and with your wider world. This will provoke an exploration of purpose - the ‘Why?’ you are doing what you do. A clear purpose gives everyone involved meaning for day-to-day activity that is stimulating and growth promoting as you strive to fulfill that purpose authentically.
Realise that to experience life the way you really want to will involve addressing and working through anything that is in the way of that. As you make the distinctions between obstacles to be overcome and sign posts pointing you in a new direction, your growth will go through accelerations.
Create a habit of ‘noticing and choosing’. The more willing you are to ‘notice’, the more emotionally intelligent you will become as you see emotional responses as informing your behaviour instead of controlling it.
Practise making corrections along the way instead of protecting egoic realities, especially regarding language. Notice your language. For example, how often do you say ‘I hate…’ when you don’t really mean it? How often do you say “I don’t care’ when you really mean ‘I don’t mind’? How often do you say ‘but’ when you could be more inclusive by saying ‘and’ instead?.
Accept that you can choose to be respectful and kind even when you are not feeling these things being reciprocated. Your own behaviour says more about you than someone else’s. When we mind our own business and cease to judge others, we have much more energy available to focus on our own dreams and work together to help others achieve theirs.
The essence of making things better before they get worse is to notice – and choose. Taking moments to consciously breathe and feel ‘how am I/we?’ in any given moment helps us get off ‘autopilot’ and take charge of ourselves, and our lives. It’s all about personal responsibility – notice and choose, notice and choose… If you want support in raising the conscious awareness in your organisation, contact us for a complimentary exploratory meeting to find out more about what we can do to support your enterprise in fulfilling its’ purpose.
From the 17th Feb- 1st March. If you are near the mighty Hamiltron check out one of the many events ranging from the Rocky Horro Show, with Richard O’Brien (live), to classical music and everything inbetween. There is pretty much something for everyone.
What you eat can affect your mental health. Good physical health is important for good mental health, and vice versa, so a healthy diet is important. But research suggests some foods may be particularly good or bad for mental health.